A Love Letter to the Rebel, the Dreamer, and the “Too Much” in You 💗 - Edition 9 // 7.11.25

Dear Curious Explorer of the world,

I want to tell you about a moment that’s stayed with me for years.

I was sitting in front of a mirror during a leadership program, asked to express myself—not just once, but 10 times more excited, more alive, more fully. Some people cried. Some laughed. Some couldn’t even meet their own gaze.

Me? I was fine... until the third time my coach said, “Go even bigger.”

Suddenly, my throat tightened. I started to sweat. I felt trapped in my body, like I had reached the edge of how much of me I could actually be with. That was the moment I realized: I had hit my ceiling of self-expression.

Not because I didn’t want to go further, but because somewhere inside, I believed I shouldn’t.

There was a voice whispering:

“Be proper. Be polite. Don’t be too much.”

And so much of my life up until that point made sense.
I grew up in a culture where doing the “right” thing mattered more than exploring who you were. Where modesty was praised, and fitting in meant being good, not bold.
But I wasn’t born to be proper.

I was the wild one. The dreamer. The girl who played with the boys, climbed trees, imagined pirate ships, and questioned everything. And yet—somewhere along the way—I tucked parts of her away so I could be accepted, so I could feel safe.

I inherited a life I didn’t choose. A set of rules I never examined. And I followed them—until they no longer felt like mine.

That mirror moment cracked something open in me.
It invited me to stop performing and start asking:
What if I let all parts of me belong?
The good. The wild. The uncertain. The “too much.”
What if home isn’t something I find “out there”—but something I create within?

That’s what I’ve made my life about.
That’s what I’ve made Homecoming about.
And that’s why I created this next offering for you.

✨ Grounded Harmony Life: A Free 2-Day Masterclass

• When: July 22nd –23th , 2025 | 5 PM - 8 PM PT

• Where: Zoom

• Hosted By: Shanshan Li

This is an invitation to begin your own journey of returning to yourself and reimagining what a life that truly feels like home could be.

Over two days, I’ll share the tools that have helped me navigate change, reclaim my voice, and build a grounded life of joy and alignment. I’ve also invited a few dear guest speakers to share how they’ve made peace with their own path and created lives that are truly theirs.

This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about meeting yourself—with tenderness, with truth, and with the belief that your full expression belongs here.

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Come as you are.
All of you are welcome.

With heart,
Shanshan
Founder, Homecoming Co.